No To Reunite with Your Ex! - Save Marriage from Divorce

Sometimes a couple knows their relationship isn't exactly good but they choose to ignore it and carry on as though all will be well and the relationship will grow and fix itself. Wrong! If you are having trouble in your relationship or if you know that your partner is having trouble and really isn't happy, you need to begin preparations to secure your relationship now before you find yourself in the position of a break up, depressed, and desperate to find a way to reunite with your ex. Don't wait around for that one day when your partner comes to you and says, "I want out!"

Relationships do not simply grow themselves. A real partnership between two people, with particular insight into each other, is what grows and stabilizes a relationship. Ignoring it will only cause a divide between a couple, pulling them further and further apart.

If you don't want to find yourself in the position of trying to reunite with your ex, use these to gain ground, and begin adding value to your marriage or relationship.

Analyze Your Relationship

- Take a step back and take a good look at everything in your marriage. Ask yourself:

- Do you do things together?

- Are you friends or just acquaintances?

- Do you support one another?

- If you have kids, are you BOTH raising them?

- Do you feel you are both on separate tracks?

- Are you making an effort to be involved or do you find every possible way to escape?

Write down your thoughts and the areas you have found for improvement, and how you will make the changes.

Where can you improve? Whatever issues you find while analyzing, start thinking about yourself first. Look at how you can improve in those areas. If you aren't sure how to improve or what steps to take, do some research. Be sure to write down your findings.

Commit

Commit to your improvements. Show perseverance and vigilance. This is also a good support measure for your partner. When they see you so committed on a regular basis, it makes it easier for them to also commit regularly. Let's face it, it isn't that you don't care, but life has a habit of running away with us and we have to step back sometimes and re-focus our attention on the important issues that get swept under the rug.

It is important that your partner sees that you are committed to your new venture and take it seriously. If you don't want to find yourself in a position where are trying to reunite with your ex, make sure you commit regularly toward being a good partner.

Communicate

Have a calm, cool chat with your partner. Tell them what you are doing and why. Then pull out your notes and share with them the areas you have found for improvement of yourself as a partner. Ask your partner to do this same procedure and then share notes.

Do not allow this time to turn into an argument. Do not make accusations or point fingers. This isn't about who is right or wrong, or who is most to blame. It is simply about working together to build a good, strong, solid foundation.

Support and Grow Your Passions

When you first got together with your partner you each had passions. A business, cooking, animal rights, healthy living, is some examples. Whatever the passions were, bring them back into your life or find new ones. Bring them back together as a couple.

Show interest and be involved in each others passions. Talk about them to each other and share the good, the bad, and hopes and any future ideas. This is a great way to spend time and have fun together and forget for a while all the issues of daily life and your relationships, while at the same time you are both doing something positive, together, toward your relationship.

Supportive and a Helping Hand

Each of you chooses five things that you would like the other to help out with, such as a household chore, dropping the kids off, or picking up dry cleaning, paying bills, or grocery shopping. This allows your partner to see what it is like to do some of the chores you always do and also gives each of you a break from some of the everyday monotonous tasks.

Each of you has to lend whatever support is needed in carrying out their new five tasks. If you know there is traffic when picking up the kids, make sure to tell your partner, or remind them if they are running late. Give whatever details are required to carry out the task correctly and on time. If you see them struggling with time, or not quite prepared, help them out.

This exercise gets you both supporting each other and getting used to taking direction from one another. It can also give funny moments to laugh at. You will each get a good idea of how much effort the other one has to put into each task. So as opposed to thinking picking up the dry cleaning is not such a big deal, you might see differently when you experience for yourself the parts of the task that are a headache, or how much time they can take.

Every month make a change and select another five tasks each.

These areas will give you insight into each others lives and passions, and allow you to share your feelings, annoyances and worries, as well as your hopes for things you care about. Don't be in a position where you are one day trying to reunite with your ex. Get the ball rolling on helping your relationship now before your marriage or relationship turns into a divorce or separation.

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